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PostHeaderIcon Mother’s Day

I am not what most people consider a typical mother my kids don’t call me mom, they call me by my first name. But I am a mother none the less. When I was very young my mother said to me, “I hope you never bring children into this world.” Confused and a bit hurt I asked her “why?” She went on to explain that the world of the future will not be like it was when she grew up. She felt it would be a hard life going forward for future generations. She apologized to me for bring me into this world, worrying I would have a hard life. She re assured me that she loved me and while I didn’t totally understand her fears, I do now. That got me to thinking.

As a young adult I made the decision to never give birth to a child, and I never have. I did, however, want a family and wanted to raise children. I always thought I would marry and we would adopt. That was my plan.

I met a wonderful man who had three children, the youngest being 4 years old, and the older two children in their early teens. Wow, that kinda sounds like the Brady Bunch song. We married 5 years after meeting. I met my husband after his wife passed way, having recently lost my own mother I could relate to some of the same feelings his children were going through. My husband and I were together for 5 years before we married. During those 5 years I was very involved with the family. I really grew to love the children and care for them as my own.

I felt very strongly that the kids remember their mother and I would sit down with them and put the VHS tapes in the player and watch family movies or look though the photo album. The youngest one loved to watch them and would ask lots of questions. The older two would watch for a while and then go off and do other things. One of the things I felt strongly about was not changing the look of the house or putting the things that belong to their mother away. I knew from personal experience how it felt when walking into to my childhood home after my father met his second wife and that she had wipe away any signs of my mother. Now I was in my 30’s at the time but still bothered me. I didn’t want these wonderful kids to feel I was replacing their mom. She would not be forgotten and locked away. Was it always easy for me? No.

When we finally got married the youngest was 8, by this time she was so used to calling me by my given name that once I was officially her step mom she just never thought of me as anything other than my name. I never expected the older two call me mom, but deep down I did for the littlest one.

As they grew up I made mistakes, but what mom doesn’t? I never forget I am the step mom, and I often wonder if the mistakes I made hurt them. I sometime wonder if I hadn’t been there would their lives have been better. Would they be happier? Mind you they had/have a good life. They were well loved even if it didn’t always seem that way.
I often wonder if they really know just how much I love them. You see I’m not sure how they really feel about me. I wonder if other mothers feel the same way? Or is it a Step-Mom thing?

Since its Mothers day and all the commercials are showing kids showering their mothers praise on such a wonderful job she did to raise them. It has me thinking do my kids feel the same way? Do they understand that I would do just about anything for them? When they are hurting, I’m hurting, when they cry I cry too? Do they know I would do it all over again?

I’m not so old that I can’t remember what it was like when I was their age. In fact I remember telling my own parents “Just let me make my own mistakes,” and did they! I can laugh about it now. I wonder if thing s would have been different if I had listened to them.

I wonder if they understand that I worry about them. I have so much life experience that I can often see the pit falls they are headed for and when I try to warn them, it’s not to be controlling, but to try and help them steer around the pit?

I hope they know how proud I am of them, they have grown into wonderful adults.

PostHeaderIcon After three years a WOW moment

October 4th the family took a trip to New Orleans. This was the first time since my surgery that I’ve flown in a plane. My WOW moment was when I put the seat belt on, and I didn’t need the seat belt extender. I can’t remember the last time I didn’t have to ask for one or bring my own. I did pack one to be on the safe side but was thrilled not to need it.

We had a wonderful time in New Orleans and I wouldn’t mind going back. I just love the French Quarter.

October 2013 New Orleans - Tom and Kim Frick

October 2013 New Orleans – Tom and Kim Frick

PostHeaderIcon 12th Wedding Anniverary

This weekend is our 12th Wedding Anniversary and I thought it would be fun to do something a little more special than our usual go out for dinner and movie. So I did a search for Bed and Breakfast in Minnesota. I found lots of lovely places to go. I thought it would be nice to get out of the twin cities and go someplace we hadn’t been before. I found The Candlelight Inn, in Red Wing Candlelight Inn . I was lucky to get a weekday rate which really helped out. We got the Queen Victoria Room and I was not disappointed. More on that later.

We left for Red Wing on Saturday 7-17-10 in the morning and took a leisurely drive stopping at a flee market where Tom got a microwave for is office, and I got a pair of earrings, we also picked up a couple of things for the kids. It was very sunny, hot, and humid, but the car’s A/C was a great relief. We pulled into Red Wing around 11:30 and set out to find a place for lunch. We decided on Maries it is in the Armory building. I had my doubts after entering the building but they were soon gone. The service was wonderful. I had the salad/soup buffet and Tom had a burger. The food was great! They were having a prime rib buffet that night so we decided that was where we would eat for dinner. After lunch we walked around downtown. Stopped in the Red Wing Shoe store, I was hoping to find some new shoes but I didn’t really like the styles and they didn’t fit well. Then we moved on to Uffda Shop, it was a very unique Scandinavian store I really enjoyed looking around. Then we moved on to some other shops, but the humidity was really getting to us so we decided to go the Red Wing Pottery store. It was a fairly large store it had not only the Red Wing Pottery but had other types of pottery as well. Attached to the store were a couple of gift stores. Just a cross the street was the factory where the pottery used to be made. Now it houses lots of little shops and antique stores. We spent quite a bit of time there.

At 4pm we headed over to the Candlelight Inn to check in. The furnishing were beautiful and as I said before we were not disappointed. Lynette the Inn Keeper was the sweetest person, we had a chance to talk at length during our stay. She is what I would have imagined an Innkeeper to be like. The bed was very comfortable and I felt like I slipped back into time.

We went back to Marie’s for dinner, however, this time we were not impressed with the food or the selection. Oh well live and learn. After dinner we went to see the Last Air Bender. It was good, but I could have waited for it come out on DVD. It moved a little slow and seem there might be 3 more movies to follow. After the movie we headed back to the Inn and to bed.

At 8:15 in the morning we were greeted to the sound of music outside our door, a basket with Coffee and delicious bran muffins were waiting for us. 9 am was breakfast, and what a feast it was, Apricot smoothie, then fresh toast made with French bread and ham, then a desert of pineapple upside down cake followed. I didn’t have the French toast, I received eggs and they were yummy. I did have a bite of Tom’s cake and it was to die for. We did meet the other guests and had a very nice conversation. After breakfast Lynette came out and told us about the history of the house. Then we were free to go.

I thoroughly enjoyed the trip, I don’t remember the last time I really enjoyed myself this much. I wouldn’t mind staying at more Bed and Breakfasts.

PostHeaderIcon Avatar… Oh it was good

Back the theater we go!! We were assured yesterday that Avatar would be working today. So we went back. True to their word the movie was working. I have to say I really missed having popcorn. It smelled so good.

Avatar was excellent and the 3D made it. It would be good with out the 3D but with it, it was so much better. I would like to see at least one more time.

My coughing isn’t as bad, but still there. I was able to time the coughs either during loud sounds or when no one was talking. I don’t think I disturbed to many people.

It was nice getting out of the house for a little while.

PostHeaderIcon Sherlock Holmes

Lisa has this weekend off so we decided to go see the movie Avatar, so being the procrastinators we are we had to rush to the theater. Only to find out there was a problem in the theater that was showing the 3D version. After talking it over we decided to see Sherlock Holmes. We had to wait an hour before it started so Tom took Lisa over to MacDonlads for some lunch. I stayed at the theater, I’m not sure I am ready to smell Macd’s just yet.

The move was good, though I think I could have easily waited for it come out on DVD.

PostHeaderIcon Mother’s Day

purplerose1 Today was an extremely nice day. I woke up at 8 am, Tom and the kids were taking me out to brunch at Champs. We had to be there around 9ish in hopes of getting in. This was the first year they did reservations for 9 am. Normally it’s just Tom and I that go out for brunch but since this might be the last time I can do a big brunch the kids agreed to come as well. What’s even nicer is they paid. Yes I did have to document this!

Sarah gave me a lovely card, as did Tom. I got Happy Mother days wishes from Tommy and Lisa.

Sarah and Lisa had to work in the afternoon, so Tom took me to see the new Star Trek movie. It was really good, and I would like to see it again. I know I missed a lot of stuff! After the movie we came home and I went into a food coma and slept most of the afternoon. It was a lazy day but a very nice one!